EXPERIENCES, both good and bad; have to do with what is inside you than what is outside

Regardless of external events, your attitude exerts the final influences on your experience. In the end, it is you, and only you, who can decide how you would feel, and whether you find your work worthwhile or your lifeworth living.Work/ Studies can be a bore. But it can also be exciting.

Two men working in the same environment and with the same people can have opposite experiences. One may find the work enriching while the other, tormenting.Similarly, two men serving the same group of customers may not have the same experience. One may find the customers easy to serve while the other think they are a pain. Why is this so??Sometimes, it is true that there are difficult people around you, and you do not have much control over this problem, although you are able to exert some influence on their attitude and behaviour.

But often, it has much to do with yourself. You bring with you a certain attitude to work/school. This attitude, in turn, influence how you perceive the work and people around you, and, subsequently, determines what you experience and how you respond.

Here is an illustration:A group of rabbits were travelling through the woods when two of them -- Buns and Bunny -- fell into a ditch. Both rabbits tried as hard as they could to jump out of the ditch. But the ditch was too deep for them to escape .
Buns, being cynical and pessimistic, was sure that the other rabbits would not help.
But Bunny, a generally amicable and optimistic rabbit, was sure that they would .Then all the other rabbits gathered around the ditch and began to shout and cheer the two rabbits on, as they tried as hard as they could to escape from their predicament.
Buns become discouraged and demoralised when he heard the shouting and cheering of the other rabbits, for he thought they were booing and jeering him. He gave up trying after a short while, and never escaped from the ditch.But Bunny become more emboldened when he heard the shouting and cheering, for he was sure that his frenze were encouraging him on. Within a few minutes, he was out of the ditch-- with a new experience.

What is the moral of it??

1) Do not assume that your colleagues, customers or bosses are out there to harm u. Often, your negative attitudes and assumptions about people have no real basis. And many times, they serve only to undermine your ability to do a good job.
2) Criticisms, whether call for or not, are demoralising; as much as encouragement, whether deserved or not, are invigorating. People like someone who has something good to say about them, but dislike someone who criticises them. Therefore, it is not only essential, but necessary to practice the art of praise and encouragement (and unlearn the habit of criticism if you are guilty of it)
3) Pessimism makes easy work difficult, but optimism makes difficult work challenging and possibly enjoyable. While a die hard attitude helps you to go against all oddds, a "sure die" attitdue disposes you to multiply the odds in despair.

Ultimately, in life and at work, your ability to do well depends on what you focus on. Focus on the difficulty and you will soon lose the nerve and verve to fight on. But focus on learning and progessing, and you will eventually find enough courage to beat the odds.

In real world, work and people are not always easy to handle. Problems abound. Misunderstandings happens frequently. And unreasonable demands are not common.In order to survive, it is necessary to adopt a positive from within. The bad news is that, sometimes, a positive attitude is all you can have. But conversely, in many instances, a positive attitude is all you need to do well in life.

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